Romancing my Husband

Yesterday I was chatting with a friend and she was sharing with me how she feels like her husband isn't romantic and doesn't put forth any effort. And I told her that while my husband does make some efforts, I still want more. Nathan told me in January that his New Years Resolution was to be more romantic to me in 09 and he openly admits that he hasn't done nearly as well as he thought he would. I was so touched when he told be that in January, but it has left me getting my hopes up a lot thinking that little surprises were coming and not even getting some of the normal things. (Like an anniversary card! haha) But it does mean a lot to me that he desires to be romantic and is at least making efforts. My friend and I talked about this for a long time and I was sharing with her how the way that men and women view romance is so different. After we got off the phone I really started thinking about this. I've felt like I've really tried to do things for Nathan and didn't feel like they were being received well and realized I might be doing it all wrong.

Here's an example: I am always writing little notes to people just to say I'm thinking about them. I send out cards and stuff like that to friends and family. And once I mailed a card to Nathan's work just to say Thank you for working so hard for us. When I leave town I leave hidden notes for Nathan to find while I'm gone. When he leaves town I try and sneak a note into his suitcase almost every time. So every time I leave town, I always get my hopes up thinking he will do the same. But Nathan sees the note and thinks, "aww that's cute." and throws the note away. If I were to receive a note I would beam with pride, maybe shed a tear, and save it to put in my memory box when I got home. We are just different.

So maybe instead of trying to show Nathan romance in the ways that I want romance I should try and meet his romantic needs. That got me thinking even more so I started researching How to Romance Your Husband. While some husbands may like receiving flowers, mine is not that kind. haha But I did get some good ideas. (Can't tell you because he reads my blogs! haha)

I just feel like woman aren't the only ones who want romance, it's just hard because men and woman see romance in different areas. Nathan is such a great provider for our family and he goes to work every day without complaint and to him he thinks that is showing me love. And while I make an effort to tell him regularly I'm proud of him and I'm thankful, I don't see it as romance. And I realized yesterday that before I could complain that I wasn't receiving romance, I needed to check myself and see if I was doing all that God is asking me to for my husband. So today I prayed that God would speak to me about ways to show Nathan romance in the next few weeks.