Questions in the car

Addison asked me today in the car, "Mom, how come you're always doing things for Weston and taking care of Weston but you don't do that many things for me?" ... my heart sunk. It made me sad because growing up I felt left out and over looked by my little sister for years.

It's hard when you have your second child because even though she was only a little older than two, suddenly she wasn't the baby she was the big sister and had to do things for herself because I was taking care of him. I think about this often because it makes me sad and I want her to feel like a kid as long as she can and I wish I could spend more time with just her. I've been trying to devote more time to her when he is napping but it doesn't always work out. Plus she enjoys having a time to watch a show.

I explained that mommy has to do so much for Weston because there are a lot of things he can't do. He can't go to the potty yet he has to have mommy change his diaper. He can't put on his shoes by himself because mommy has to help him. He can't just get out of the bathtub and get himself dressed. We talked about how she was a big girl and able to do so much and tried to show her how positive it was. I specifically told her that I don't do more things for him because I love him more. I do them because he needs help while he's learning.

She thought for a minute and responded, "Oh I guess that makes more sense."

Still makes me sad though... think we'll be setting aside some special time tomorrow if we can!